By Chelcee Johns. Photography by RJ Eldridge.
When the world shakes abundantly, when the news tells me fear is the undergarment of everyday living, when the romance quakes itself into a slow rumble, when the mirror acts like it doesn’t know my name, when the vision feels pregnant and the birthing a low tide of praise and break and an altar unto myself.
When the living is getting to good and the notes to self plastered across my room are a testimony of a journey worth striving towards.
Audre Lorde will tell us, “revolution is not a one time event;” healing is not a one time event; wellness is not a one time event; self-love is not a one time event. It is a journey we pledge ourselves to each day the morning calls our name. It’s here, in the commitment, that we are excited to begin our year at BGIO and with you too.
At times, we have a grand vision of ourselves that feels too big, maybe too unrealistic. A vision that sets both our fears and our souls ablaze. It’s this vision we’d like to commit to in 2018. What does a year of commitment to the journey look like?
What does a year of pledging loyalty to yourself first feel like?
At first, it may feel like full bloom, it may feel like you’ve realized you are the answer to your prayers and somebody else’s too. Then… then you start to feel the work it takes. The excavation it asks of you. The early mornings, the late nights, the solitude to manifest the you that scares and excites you all the same. It’s in these moments we need to be reminded of commitment the most.
I believe commitment become sexier as we age, it feels tangible, it is full of responsibility and promise. We commit because we believe in the fruit the commit will bring. We commit to God, our love lives, our jobs, our call. But, what is the work this commitment asks of you for you?
On the Journey to the You that Sets Your Soul Ablaze
1) Define Commitment for Yourself
What does it take to reach the highest vision of yourself? Does commitment look like yoga every day? Writing on Saturdays? Two hours on that passion project after work? Let’s get clear on our definition of commitment.
2) Create a “Fruit Thereof” List
What is the fruit you want to look back on 2018 and see achieved from your life? What will your commitment bring? Make this the tangible and intangible - the inner and outer.
3) Decide on Your Divine Ritual
Because making a schedule sounds so one-dimensional. What will your everyday need to look like to commit to the highest version of yourself?
4) Who “Touches & Agrees” With You?
Is it your partner or best friend or prayer buddy? Find someone (or some two or three) who help hold you accountable. These people should affirm the you that sets your soul ablaze. They believe in the vision that feels bigger than you. But more than that, someone you trust to go to when broken and vulnerable, they will affirm you.
5) Give Yourself a Praise Break - big & small.
A moment of testimony? I achieved more than I gave myself credit for in 2017, but it didn’t feel like it because I was originally solely focused on big goals. I let my heart be the strongest muscle. I honored transition - even when rough. Testify to yourself throughout the journey and find ways to join in jubilee.
Ready to share how you are committing to the journey in 2018? How will you commit to wellness and growth in your mind, body, soul and space? What strategies do you use when the commitment gets rough? What have you learned about commitment? Send your pitches to Editor@BlackGirlInOm.com.
Chelcee Johns is a digital nomad, publishing professional, Detroit native, editor/content strategist and word & world-loving soul. She is based in Harlem and recently called Bali home for a year. Her passion for the power of the written word & highlighting often policed narratives has led her to work in publishing for the past 7 years with organizations such as Moguldom Media Group, Serendipity Literary Agency, the New York Times and writing for the likes of Ebony. In a rupturing political climate and blooming social change, BGIO is the place Chelc is able to create a community of safe space in our collective stories as Publication Editor. She is empowered by the (inner)work! With that said, her self-care go to is journaling, prayer and meditation.