No matter the form of your romantic relationship – casual and short, extended and intense, or a lifetime, there are three things that are important to remember.
I am committed to rejecting the internal notion that I should fear love based on my personal traumas. I am not a victim. My declaration, my choice, is radical. I choose black love. I choose to do everything in my power to uplift, honor, envision, and support our black families. We will never die. We will commit to infinite love, and together, we will survive.
Like it or not, we mirror our surroundings. That doesn't mean that you aren't an individual with different perspectives, but it does mean that it's easy to fall into the pattern of your environment and upbringing. To be different, to think different, is a choice. Mental wounds can derive from anyone, not just our Mothers or Fathers. Anyone that you allow into your life can influence it, so protect it.