Episode 49 — Explore, Examine, and Enrich: Reset Your Relationships with Nkechi Njaka

Who are you in your relationships? In this episode, Black Girl In Om Founder Lauren Ash and Art Director Deun Ivory are sitting down with the most mindful neuroscientist we know, the incredible Nkechi Njaka, to dive into this question in a major way. Given her status as a longtime, frequent, and beloved contributor to our online publication, consider this a continuation of all the things she’s brought to this community over the years.

If you’ve been seeking relationships that leave you feeling fulfilled, this episode is for you. If you’ve been actively avoiding intimacy with the people in your life, this episode is for you. If there’s a friend you’re ready to dig beyond the surface with, this episode is for you. If you’re wondering why you’re single or pondering your status in partnership, this episode is for you. Essentially, if you’re a human being and you’ve ever interacted with another human being, this episode is for you.

With this episode as the catalyst, you can take all your relationships to the next level, including the most important one: your relationship with yourself.

Catch more from Nkechi through her Instagram. to receive the most up to date information on her schedule, her teachings, her practice and so much more. Continue to deepen into the concept of mindfulness by connecting with Nkechi in person or online via her digital offerings.


  • The episode you deeefinitely want to listen to before this one — think of it like the official prequel

  • A shout out to a collective experience Deun, Lauren, and Nkechi shared in 2018

  • Finding the route to mindfulness in all places, relationships, and spaces, including those that aren’t exactly aligned with where you are in your mindful journey

  • Where Nkechi’s journey to mindfulness in relationships began and took root

  • A book that really opened Nkechi’s eyes to the type of person she wishes to be and the quote that made her be incredibly honest with herself

  • Important questions that Nkechi grappled with that you can ask yourself today

  • A lesson Deun is learning on interdependence vs. independence, catalyzed by this timely read

  • A pattern Nkechi was able to uncover that completely relates to this season’s conversation on acting in alignment with your intentions

  • Intentional steps and practices that help us unpack and understand how we are showing up in relationships

  • Some of the friendships present in the lives of these ladies + the lessons these relationships have brought to them

  • An on-air, friendship-rooted revelation between Lauren, Deun, and Nkechi

  • How to take an active role in your relationships starting today

Mindfulness has changed my brain, my body, and the way that I move through the world. — @NkechiNjaka click to tweet

We’re centering ourselves when we think of wellness. — @NkechiNjaka click to tweet

How can I practice greater mindfulness so I can feel like the higher self that I always aspire to rise to be, as many times as possible, in as many different relationships in my life as possible? — @HelloLaurenAsh click to tweet

How do I make strong requests for the things that I desire? What are the subconscious things getting in the way? What am I unwilling to look at and place that responsibility on a relationship? — @NkechiNjaka click to tweet

You are not well alone. Your soul is not well alone. You need people. — @deunivory click to tweet

I firmly believe a lot of spiritual shifts will happen if you desire them to. — @HelloLaurenAsh click to tweet

You’re going to be a better mirror for me than I can be myself because we have so many layers over how we see ourselves. — @HelloLaurenAsh click to tweet

Sometimes when people tell you the truth about yourself, they trigger something in you. — @deunivory click to tweet

Other people can’t see your past… That’s why it’s so important to unpack our traumas and unpack our patterns. — @HelloLaurenAsh click to tweet

That’s also part of the practice: being in tune with yourself and checking in with how the body responds. — @NkechiNjaka click to tweet

The body is always a really powerful indicator of what you actually feel. — @HelloLaurenAsh click to tweet

Listening is collecting information, observing, taking it in, feeling how it feels in your body. Keeping the heart open and not judging is the best way to continue to create spaciousness. — @NkechiNjaka click to tweet

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