Posted by Lauren Ash
Courtney Cobbs is one of those souls who truly lives from her values. I had the pleasure of meeting Courtney one year ago during a Black Girl In Om New Moon Circle. I learned that she practiced reiki, was passionate about all things wellness and self-care, and that she, too, had a desire to cultivate meaningful community focused on self-care and wellness for women of color. Upon learning that Courtney was launching Violet Heart Wellness, I knew we had to feature her in Black Girl In Om. Courtney is more than a friend—she is a fellow sister representing how in prioritizing self-love and self-care and letting go of all that doesn’t serve you can lead you toward a life that is not just fulfilling for you, but a source of inspiration for others. I trust that you will be inspired by our conversation! If you’re interested in exploring reiki in-person or at a distance, book Courtney today!
What does Black Girl In Om mean to you?
Black Girl in Om has been a constant source of inspiration, healing and hope. I am lucky to live in the city of Chicago where BGIO got its start. I was first introduced to BGIO through your first New Moon Circle. I left the event on a cloud. I met wonderful people, heard incredibly healing stories, set powerful intentions, and felt as if I was meant to be there. I was new in attending wellness events, and so far I had been in majority White spaces. I had a good time in the White spaces but there’s a sense of elevation when I am in a room full of Black women. There’s just so much magic. There’s a shared connection. Every Black Girl in Om event I’ve attended has nourished my spirit and for that I am grateful to be a part of this feature. Black Girl in Om has been such a source of needed Black Girl Magic in my life.
How do you identify with Black Girl In Om's mission?
I love that Black Girl in Om is committed to promoting self-love and self-care to communities of color. I also love all of the inspirational content BGIO posts through the publication and your Instagram. My mission is to help women of color step into their power to create the life of their dreams. I do this through holistic energy work and coaching around self-care. I also facilitate wellness workshops. I earned my Masters of Social Work in 2014 with the goal of working with disenfranchised communities. My Reiki practice and my wellness workshops are one way I contribute to the world I want to live in.
What are your self-care and self-love practices?
I’m a huge fan of meditative baths with epsom salt & essential oils, Reiki (self-Reiki and receiving Reiki from other practitioners), massage, yoni eggs, solitude and time-out in nature. I have fibromyalgia, so baths have been a huge part of taking care of myself. Baths are also a great environment for meditation, reflection, emotional release and sexual healing. I’m a huge fan of speaking intentions into my body and my life during these times.
Yoni eggs are just amazing. Yoni eggs have helped connect me to my divine feminine, heal from trauma and manifest.
What's one ritual you recommend more women of color adopt to cultivate inner beauty and wellness?
I recommend more women of color carve out time to praise themselves. The frequency will vary for each person but the intent behind it is to boost yourself up, especially in a world that often doesn’t praise US. For years I was so critical of myself and once I started to see where that got me (see: not very far) I started to change how I talked to myself. I carve out time at least once a week to sit in the mirror and tell myself how much I love myself and all the excellent things I did during the week. It may sound corny or self-indulgent but self-talk is super important. Self-talk impacts your physical, mental and emotional health. I’d much rather cheer for myself than be my worst enemy.
Here’s a simple exercise to improve your self-talk:
1. Walk up to a mirror where you feel your best.
2. Take the time to look at yourself in the most positive light you can.
3. Congratulate yourself on something positive you did during your day or week. Do this for as long as you’d like.
It could be something really small such as, “I’m so proud of you for drinking enough water this week,” or “I’m so glad you said no to that project you wouldn’t have enjoyed.”
We shape our world by our words. Changing the way you view yourself can change your whole life’s trajectory. If you wanted to take this practice further you can start to implement affirmations into your daily routine. I love following Louise Haye’s Facebook page and Brittany Josephina’s Instagram for affirmational inspiration.
What's one wellness product you can't live without?
Essential oils. Essential oils not only smell good and typically don’t cause headaches for scent-sensitive folks, but they can be used for physical, spiritual and emotional healing. I love carrying a few bottles of essential oil in my purse for when I can sometimes feel overwhelmed by all the energy on public transportation. I have a diffuser in my apartment to lift my mood and help me sleep.
More about Courtney Cobbs:
Courtney Cobbs is a Black femme soul who hails from Little Rock, AR. She currently lives in Chicago, IL. She is a Reiki Master who loves sharing the love of Reiki with others. During her “free time” she can be found by Lake Michigan enjoying the beautiful view, hanging out with her beloved cat Arima, spending time with friends, reading, or blissing out to some binaural beats.
If interested in a distance or in-person Reiki session with her check out her website at Violet Heart Wellness.